One of the most frustrating thing about boys is that they are not girls. As a woman I know about girls – I’ve been one my whole life! I know how girls think, how we react, I know the secret language we use where the words we say aren’t really what we mean. Don’t even try to deny it ladies, we are what we are. But boys aren’t, they are boys.
Now don’t misunderstand my purpose for this post. It is not to bash boys – I love mine to death! They are wonderful men and I am so lucky to have the privilege of mothering them. My goal here is to give some insight into the male species. Although I am no expert, I believe I do have more experience than most as I have spent the last 27 years living with and raising my warriors.
From the very beginning boys are different from girls in many, many, many ways. First of all, there is the sheer physicality of them. For some reason boys have an innate need for constant motion, whether it be alone or with others. As small children, my sons were constantly wrestling, hitting, pushing, shoving, running, jumping, etc. At first I thought that this was just normal toddler behavior but as they grew this type of activity continued – everywhere: home, shopping, Drs. office, amusement park, church, wherever! And even today, when they are all together, it is the same thing only on a much larger scale! Picture 4 grown men shoving, wrestling, climbing over the couch…. Yup that’s how they still roll – and they love every minute of it. 🙂
As boys begin to learn to talk a whole new world opens up! Kids do say the darnedest things, don’t they? And for boys it usually revolves around some bodily function or body part. You know which one I’m talking about. 🙂 A favorite name-calling word for my Favorite First Born growing up was “penis head”. I know right? That is what he liked to call his brother just for fun. Now tell me, would any of you ladies consider calling your sister “boob head”? I think not! That obsession starts early and is just plain wired into them. 🙂
One interesting thing to note is that boy behavior seems to escalate when there are multiple boys present. Friends, if you have only 1 son, bless you. You have your own set of fun. However, I hate to tell you, but 2 boys aren’t really double the experience. You really can’t use addition when counting the number of boys involved in a given situation. You must multiply exponentially! Somehow, boys take things to an entirely new level when other boys are around. All of a sudden, things like lighting farts, or shooting one another with an air-soft or BB gun, or trying out some unspeakable “prank” becomes a brilliant idea! Things they wouldn’t consider doing on their own become super cool and must be tried, immediately. Clearly, decision making powers go out the window when there are multiple boys involved. Any mother of multiple boys will tell you: One boy = one brain, Many boys = no brains!
Is it their innate sense of competitiveness that drives their thoughts and actions? Is it the testosterone? I honestly don’t know. But what I do know is this, they come this way. Wired to be our warriors, our knights in shining armor – and what’s wrong with that? Not one thing! These traits that are considered oddities to us as women need to be embraced in our young men. OK maybe not the “penis head” thing, but you know what I mean.
As mothers we have the awesome responsibility to encourage the beauty of manhood by refining the rough edges. I do not want to destroy their maleness, but hone it. We get to guide our sons in discovering the great blessings that God has given to them and encourage our boys to become the hunters and gatherers of our time. We are here to advocate for our boys. To understand them and see them safely into adulthood, all the while holding tight to God’s promises. What a beautiful gift!